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We live in a world that moves fast, reacts quickly, and often speaks before listening. A world where opinions spread like wildfire, and judgments are made without truth, compassion, or understanding. And sometimes — without even realizing it — we can get swept into that current.

But this is not the way of Jesus.

Scripture tells us, “Let your conversation be always full of grace…” — Colossians 4:6
And again, “Encourage one another and build each other up.” — 1 Thessalonians 5:11

Followers of Christ are called to a higher standard — a gentler standard. We are called to be a safe place in a world full of sharp edges.

1. Don’t Jump to Conclusions

It’s easy to assume the worst. It’s easy to fill in the gaps of someone’s story without knowing the facts, and easy to react to a rumor or a mistake with frustration or judgment.

But the Bible reminds us: “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” — James 1:19

We rarely know the whole story. There is almost always more beneath the surface — pain, pressure, fear, trauma, misunderstanding, or a moment of weakness. Grace asks us to pause… and to withhold judgment until we know the truth.

2. Don’t Tear Others Down

The world is harsh enough. People carry wounds we never see — the last thing they need is a Christian adding to their hurt. When we speak, we should leave people better than we found them. Our words should not bruise — they should build – not crush — but comfort – not shame — but strengthen.

If our words don’t heal, they don’t reflect Him.

3. Care for Those Being Treated Badly

Jesus always moved toward the hurting — the woman caught in adultery, the leper cast out, the tax collector despised by his community. He never joined the crowd of accusers. He defended the vulnerable. He stood between the broken and the stones being thrown.

We are called to do the same. Sometimes kindness looks like sitting with the rejected. Sometimes love looks like speaking up when others are silent. Sometimes compassion looks like saying, “Enough. This isn’t right.”

4. Love Those Who Have Made Mistakes

People will fail.  People will stumble. People will make choices we can’t understand.

But Jesus never turned away from the repentant. He never humiliated the broken. He never posted about people’s failures for the world to see.

Grace doesn’t condone sin — but it does restore sinners.

5. Don’t Join the Crowd When Accusations Start

Crowds are loud. Crowds feel powerful. Crowds love a spectacle. But Jesus never followed the crowd — He confronted it.

When the Pharisees dragged the woman before Him and demanded judgment, Jesus knelt down in the dirt and dismantled their fury with one quiet sentence:

“Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.”

Before we join the crowd, Christ asks us to examine our own hearts.

6. Don’t Blast People on Facebook

Social media has become a place where people’s reputations can be destroyed in seconds. But as Christians, we carry a responsibility to use our platforms carefully. We are called to be peacemakers, not instigators. Encouragers, not accusers.

If a post doesn’t edify, heal, or honor God, it likely shouldn’t be posted.

7. Be the People Who Lift Others Up

The world needs more encouragers. More listeners. More gentle spirits. More people are willing to step out of the crowd and say, “Let’s choose grace today.”

We cannot control what others do, but we can choose the spirit we bring into the room — or onto the screen. Let us be people known for compassion. People who look for the good. People who slow down before speaking. People who defend the hurting. People who restore the fallen.  People who love like Jesus.

Prayer

Lord, make me a person who brings peace, not division. Give me a heart slow to judge and quick to show grace. Help me speak words that heal, protect those who are mistreated, and love those who have stumbled. Let my life reflect Your compassion in every conversation, every choice, and every post. Amen.